Welcome to my happily ever after...
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unsolicted advice
Last night was awesome. University of Houston resumed classes yesterday, and as a result I had the house to myself until 8:30 last night. I went home, looked at lots of porn on the internet, cooked a nice dinner, watched some TV, and got to generally relax a bit before Carlos came home. It felt so darn good.
I have less than a week left here at work before I start my new job. I have been really, really lazy since I gave my notice. My days consist of reading my fav diaries, surfing the net looking for an apartment, chatting with K when I get an opportunity, and reading magazines when no one is looking. You know, what I can't quite figure out is why the days are going by so darn slow!
I found a townhouse for rent that's about 5 blocks from my new job. This one has a washer and dryer also because at 31 years old, I'm tired of schlepping my clothes to and from the folks' house every week. My parents tell me that once I have my own W/D, they might not ever see me again. Maybe.... :) Anywho, I figure I'll drive by it tonight and see if it's in the hood like the rest of the apartments I've looked at have been.
My friend Thomas sent me an email yesterday giving me advice about what to do about Carlos and the money thing. See below:
I agree that it is not your responsibility and neither should he make it your responsibility to take care of him. If he wants to teach and work as a TA, he can get a part time job after school to help out with money and you should suggest as much. But, if you love him, you have to be prepared to meet him halfway as well.
I know you want to spend money on yourself...but you cannot think of you as a yourself with Carlos in the picture. Truly, you two are a unit/or should be, and until you make decisions from this perspective...there will always be a yours and a his.
What kind of crack is he smoking? Why is it that my friends (other than Diaryland friends) always seem to see Carlos' side before mine?
I didn't write Thomas back. I couldn't even begin where to start. I've known Thomas for four years, and he is always in a relationship where he moves in a guy's house that he has absolutely no financial stake in. You've heard the joke "What does a lesbian take on a second date? A U-Haul...." Har-har.
Well, Thomas is a big lesbian.
9:17 a.m. - 2003-01-14
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